2024. 12. 23. 10:50ㆍSelf Heal
If you're working hard and your situation isn't terrible, yet you still feel unhappy, I encourage you to stick around and watch this video until the end. Life is filled with ups and downs; we experience moments of happiness and struggle. If you feel happy often, you might think, "I'm doing just fine." However, when the bad times seem to outweigh the good, it's easy to feel stuck in a rough patch. The question is, what makes that feeling of unhappiness hit even harder? While there are many reasons for the differences in our experiences of happiness and sadness, one significant factor is your actions. Unhappiness frequently creeps in when you allow yourself to feel lazy and take no action. It's common to think, "I should be doing something, but why bother?" This mindset leads to inertia—doing nothing—and that, in turn, fuels unhappiness. If you get trapped in this cycle, it will undoubtedly drag you down. Let's be clear: simply being comfortable does not equate to happiness. I find more satisfaction when I'm actively engaged in meaningful activities. My days feel far more rewarding that way. It's not enough to merely feel content. If I stop taking action altogether, I know I'll feel unhappy. But there's another scenario I want to address. Sometimes, despite working hard and being proactive in pursuing my goals, I still experience unhappiness.
My schedule might be packed, results may be visible, and everything might look fine from the outside, but deep down, that unhappiness lingers. Both scenarios exist: people who take no action and feel unhappy and those who take action yet still feel discontent. They both wrestle with unhappiness. There's ample content focused on the lethargic, but let's not overlook the large number of diligent individuals who are also struggling. The imbalance in available resources is glaring. Therefore, I want to highlight the patterns of unhappiness that those who work hard but still find themselves unhappy tend to repeat and how they can overcome this challenge. In my view, the defining characteristic of those who work hard yet remain unhappy can be summed up in one word: "hamster wheel."
What does that signify? It feels like you're exerting considerable effort but going nowhere—just spinning in circles. At some point, everyone faces a critical question: "What will I do with my life?" What career will I pursue? What field will I specialize in? These are the essential questions that must be addressed. When preparing for my future, I had to confront these questions directly. Initially, I aimed to become a carpenter. I enrolled at BCIT for carpentry classes and quickly realized that this path was right for me after gaining practical experience. I embraced it fully and eventually returned to classes after years of hands-on work, achieving my journeyman carpenter certification within three years. It's time to take action and break free from the cycle of dissatisfaction.
I pushed through it all, and things have cleared up now. If you know anyone in a carpentry training program—be it a friend, niece, or others—please let them know that the reality of construction is physically demanding. Whether you're building private houses for millionaires or billionaires, bridges, roads, government properties, high-rises, furniture, or other structures, you need to exchange your time for money. Regardless of the weather—rain, snow, or temperatures below -10°C—you must be present to earn that hard-earned money. The fastest way to make over $40 an hour is to complete the first year of the Red Seal program, join the union associated with your trade, and finish the Red Seal program itself. By age 21, you can make $53 per hour if you do everything right. Whether you are an ironworker, pipefitter, or carpenter, we are all construction workers.
We build structures together. Statistics show that new construction workers have created 70% of the fatalities, similar to incidents involving new drivers. I have experienced accidents myself when I was carrying Class N road signs. While you learn the basics of safety and the functions of power tools in classrooms, sometimes that isn't enough. Consequently, people often emphasize acquiring more field experience. In the construction industry, you meet various people from different backgrounds. Some call themselves refugees. With a background in medicine, they come to Canada and start by cleaning up job sites for a fresh start. They do this due to conflicts in their home countries. Thanks to our government, they receive shelter, a minimum wage of $25 per hour for their hard work, and $5,000 monthly for their settlement help. I realized that our starting point is in the top 30% of the world simply because we were born and live in Canada.
You can transform your life in shelters or on the street. It's your mentality that dictates your thoughts. Some say, "I don't know how to make more than minimum wage, and I can't afford the high college tuition." What about the cost of books? I applied for a living allowance, tuition support, and travel expenses while attending BCIT. They provided me with $25000 during my studies, and I only had to pay back $20000 after six months of working in the field. I had opportunities to pay it back in full. My first construction pay was $14, but my wage doubled within a year. At that time, I only paid $500 for rent and worked full-time at a corner store. If I hadn't been earning money and my rent was as high as today, organizations would be willing to pay for tuition. The answers exist for those willing to ask and look for solutions. There is nothing that can't be achieved. Even with my Red Seal in carpentry, I made only $37 an hour at the top. I had to pay for my gas and provide my power tools, while my friend, who went to Alberta with just management experience and some basic general construction knowledge, was earning the same amount. He also received gas allowances and paid travel hours, all thanks to a simple phone call and email to their head office. I was genuinely happy about his achievement.
I might have helped or encouraged him to take that first step, but he negotiated his pay himself. I realized from that experience that I should focus on helping others achieve their goals by becoming a YouTube creator. I don't have many subscribers; most are drawn to my Blippi content. I'm unsure how the YouTube algorithm works or the rules around presenting other people's content on my channel. I have emailed Blippi World Tour but have not received any responses. I'm working toward reaching my first 1,000 subscribers by the end of this year. Please help me if you come across this!
Starting in November 2025, I began working with Brymark, a company focused exclusively on industrial projects. Their pay rate for carpenters is $47 an hour. If you look at it objectively, I've grown and worked hard, right? However, the funny thing is that I wasn't happy when those two cycles of achievement ended. Sure, achieving something feels great, but that feeling only lasts for a day or two. Back in January 2020, just a few days apart, my son was born, and I joined the union, earning $37 plus metro travel pay and a lot of overtime. Can you imagine? It felt fantastic as if I had the whole world in my hands. But that feeling lasted only about two weeks.
Looking back, I wonder why that is. It's because I kept asking myself, "What should I improve? What should I do next?" Those questions are all short-term. After I made improvements, I questioned, "What's next?" If you're hearing this, you might think I'm just being spoiled. But honestly, is this merely my experience? I feel like the pressure of figuring out my career as an adult is thirteen times tougher than it was as a teenager. Why? Because even if career worries exist as a teen, they seem much less daunting compared to adulthood. Anyway, we need to focus on studying right now. But what happens when you become an adult? You have to take action immediately, and the costs of that action grow higher. Therefore, worries about your career and future become more significant as you transition into adulthood. It's not just about knowing what job you want to pursue; there are always additional worries, right? For instance, what college to attend, where to find a job, and how to get married. We often think we'll be happy if we just land that job, get married, or have kids, But let me ask you this: Are you truly happy? Just because you have answered those immediate questions about what to do and how to do it doesn't necessarily mean you'll find happiness. Some might argue that it's merely about insufficient money to stop worrying. However, I've spoken to people with hundreds of millions of dollars; their joy from achieving things seems to reach a whole different level. The happiness they experience appears far more profound than anything I felt when I received that $47 pay rate. For me, it wasn't just a day or two. After about a month, I realized that I wasn't genuinely happy. I felt bored, and nothing in my routine had changed. So, what do unhappy people, despite working hard, do? They get stuck in this cycle of "What now? What now?" But the "What now?" question is short-term and has a finite endpoint. Once you reach that endpoint, it can feel empty and challenging. We must, therefore, consider this: the clues to overcoming unhappiness and finding joy are not found in "What" but rather in "Why." Why am I working? What am I doing? It's not solely about how much I make or what I do, but understanding why I'm doing it in the first place. That is what ultimately gives our lives meaning and helps us overcome unhappiness.
It wasn't just a day or two for me. After about a month, I realized I wasn't truly happy. I was bored, and nothing in my routine had changed. So, what do unhappy people, despite working hard, do? They get stuck in a cycle of "What now? What now?" However, the "What now?" question is short-term and has a finite endpoint. Once you reach that endpoint, it can feel empty and difficult. We must consider this: the clues to overcoming unhappiness and finding happiness aren't "What" but "Why." Why am I working? What am I doing? It's not about how much I make or what I do but about figuring out why I'm doing it in the first place. That's what ultimately gives our lives meaning and helps us overcome unhappiness. This journey is never-ending. It makes the world a better place and gives others dreams and hope. Isn't that usually why we work? But where does it end? What does it even mean? Questions like these are endless. Therefore, we need something to keep us motivated so we don't fall into despair and can keep pushing forward. There's a second reason why this is necessary: to reduce and overcome pain. Nietzsche said that if you know why you live, you can endure any suffering. What did he mean? You need to know your purpose in handling the pain. Pain is unavoidable, no matter how hard we try or how much we invest in life. But to endure that pain, we must understand why we're living. The key is this: even if we live our lives to the fullest, if we're unhappy, we must check if we're stuck in a rut. The key to overcoming unhappiness is discovering what matters to us, not just going through the motions. So, we need to figure out why we work. However, this might not be clear to everyone yet. I want to share some key points to help define your purpose. This wisdom isn't solely my own; it's been passed down from many authors who have come before us. First up is altruism. In Viktor Frankl's book, "Man's Search for Meaning," he discusses how humans tend to look towards something outside of themselves or someone else. It could be a goal they want to achieve or someone they must confront. The more people focus on serving others or giving love, the more they enhance their humanity. This idea is found in "Man's Search for Meaning" and many other success-related books. You might have heard about "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People" or "The Attributes of Success"—those books all share a common theme: the essence of success lies in community.
It's all about contributing, you know? That's the essence of success. Humans naturally feel fulfilled and find meaning when they help others. As mentioned earlier in that book, Viktor Frankl talks about how the more you forget yourself while helping others, the more fulfilled you become. It aligns with human nature. Now, I get it—some might say, "What are you talking about? That sounds so unrealistic. The world is filled with selfish people, and many are doing just fine. Why should I think about being selfless?" But let me tell you, I'm here to provide practical self-development tips. Honestly, living selflessly can lead to better financial outcomes. Imagine you're buying something, and the vibe from the seller is about, "Hurry up and pay so I can get rich." That's not exactly inviting, right? I'm not sure if my recent purchase will work out. I don't know if the ingredients are good, but I bought it cheaply. However, if you feel a certain vibe from a seller and then you meet someone else who is genuinely focused on the customers and understands the struggles you're going through, it feels different. I've been working day and night to solve those problems. Even if I don't have a huge profit margin, I want to offer you the best price possible and provide real value in addressing your needs. It feels different, doesn't it? Sometimes it feels selfish, and sometimes it feels selfless. So, if you had to choose, would you pay someone who seems selfless or selfish? You'd probably choose the selfless one, right? It makes sense because people feel good when they help others and contribute to the community. However, it's also true that we have selfish tendencies. We embody both sides. When my customers have a self-centred view, thinking, "I'm helping you; I'm here for you," that mindset can lead to more sales. Ultimately, it's all about finding a way that benefits me too. So, when we discuss defining my own "why" for working, it should be rooted in selflessness rather than selfishness, but let me clarify: being selfless doesn't mean you have to volunteer all your time or give away all your money to society. Many people get that wrong. Work fundamentally revolves around fulfilling someone else's needs. Any job's existence implies that someone out there needs it, which inherently makes that work selfless. Therefore, when I look at my job, I should see it as valuable and inherently selfless. It's not about whether a job is good or bad; it's about having a selfless mindset. Of course, some jobs can harm society, but that's a different conversation.
Even if we assume the opposite, the key point remains that when we engage in similar activities, it's better to approach them with a selfless perspective and altruistic motives. It doesn't matter whether society recognizes our actions as good deeds. If what we do helps someone in need and aligns with the greater good, it is a selfless act and the right thing to do. So, what should we focus on? We need to view our work not from a self-centred perspective but from another one. To achieve this, we must ground our reasons for working in the needs of others, not just our own. Now, let's move on to the second point: discovery. A common misconception is that life aims to realize their inner potential. They believe some seed within them needs to bloom, and they must find and nurture it. This leads to a tendency to search for life and work solely from within. But what do the books say about this? Victor Frankl states in "Man's Search for Meaning" that the true meaning of life should be found in the world around us, not just within ourselves. What must we do to determine whether we are good at something? We have to try it, right? Similarly, how can we know if we have potential in a certain field or if we can make a meaningful contribution? We can only discover that by giving it a shot. There are things in this world that we can only understand through practical experience. The issue arises when discussions about self-actualization create the impression that we need to dig deep inside ourselves to uncover some hidden seed that needs to bloom. This often leads to the belief that we must explore our inner selves to discover our true essence. While I'm unsure if there is an inherently true self within us, one thing is clear: we must try things out to determine what works. From my experiences, I have realized that you can become proficient at something you enjoy, even if you haven't tried it before. It's about finding what fits you and how to express that. So, what should you do? Focus on what you are good at and love—that should be your reason for living. You need to let go of fixed ideas in your mind. Your identity is discovered through broadening your experiences; there is no unchanging essence from the start. However, when people hear advice like "try new things" or "take on challenges," many think, "I'll give it a try, but if it doesn't work out, what's the point? How will I even use this skill?" They often view it as meaningless.
Nevertheless, "The Language of the Rich" suggests not to worry in advance about how much you might use your skills while discovering them. Just like gathering ingredients in the kitchen, keep an open mind and find your talents. Start collecting those ingredients.
Once you gather everything, you can decide what food to make. When you recognize your talents, you find ways to apply them to the fullest. As an industrial carpenter, I am learning to educate, share knowledge, and consult with foreman and superintendent. However, while contemplating how to increase my earnings, I felt that the skills I gained from previous work were largely irrelevant in the industry. I could speak independently in school, but it didn't seem to matter outside of that environment. Yet, when I entered the real world, I discovered that my carpentry skills were not as "I initially thought. If I had a choice but to give up and say, "I don't need this job isn't for me," would I be capable of giving this bowered now? Just thinking about that gives me chills. This shouldn't state that when trying to figure out our purpose and direction in life, we shouldn't only look within ourselves. Instead, we must broaden our experiences and gain insights by trying many different things. Doesn't understand that even if what I'm experiencing and learning right now seems irrelevant or feels below my current level, I have to keep an open mind and collect those experiences piece by piece. This is what finding purpose and meaning in life entails. The third key to discovering my unique self is being present. We must understand our motivations and approach our exploration with an altruistic mindset. But there's a catch: this discovery doesn't happen overnight; it takes time. So, what should we do while we seek clarity? Should we just sit around and wait? No! Until we reach that understanding, we must live fully. In other words, we shouldn't be committed to the present while we figure things out. This encapsulates the essence of being present. We shouldn't merely envision a positive future we've found ourselves and are thriving; we must remember that we are actively creating that shouldn't now. We've got to live our lives to the fullest, what's? Dale Carnegie emphasizes the importance of self-management and reminds us not to fixate on distant, unclear goals; today's focus is on what's right in front of us. The "best" way to prepare for tomorrow is to focus our intelligence and passion on performing today's tasks well. Our "why" is that we pay attention to the present and give our best every day. Simply, trying to cover our purpose without taking action won't lead us anywhere. So, if you've stayed to watch this longer, you may wonder what your "why" is. Let's not expect an instant answer. Instead," we need to acknowledge that this discovery may take time and concentrate on the tasks at hand each day. Now, let's move on to the book talk: What is your "why"? For me, it all boils down to "one word," which can be summed up to a word "courage."
I believe I have shared this with you, but let me explain what this word means. "Courage" is what it stands for—it means to instill courage in others. I hope everyone I meet can have some courage. There are many ways to gain courage, right? It can be as simple as motivation and encouragement, which I strive to provide in my content. To foster courage, we need to offer knowledge, as ignorance can breed fear. To overcome that fear, we haven't injected courage through expertise. I'm on this journey; it can sometimes be challenging and overwhelming. I'm down, too, but I can confidently say I feel a bit beat up. What doesn't kill me only makes me stronger. Before I can figure out what to do next, I always have options available to me. I have thought about giving up and stopping, but now that I've clarified my thoughts, those options are starting to fade. Sometimes, I might take a break or make gradual improvements, but my central mindset is to keep pushing forward no matter what. Since I have a clear purpose in what I'm doing, my I'ves feel much more meaningful than when I was going through the motions without a goal. I feel a sense of fulfillment from that. I've listened to stories from others who work hard and achieve a lot, and it all comes down to one question: Why am I doing this? Regardless of the field, everyone has that once you have a certain level of success. Even those who started for the money eventually wrestle with this question. So, if you're grappling with these thoughts or haven't faced this yet, I hope you take the time to reflect on it because it can be challenging. That's why I present this video today. Today, I talked about the routines of people who work hard but still feel unhappy. So, what are those routines? It's like a hamster wheel. Putting in the effort isn't "moving" and staying "the same" routine over and over. It can feel empty and lead to negative realization. We needn't just to know "what" or "how" but to understand something deeper.
The reason is that knowing "what" offers endless guidance. First, we must understand why we live; that understanding helps us endure pain. We need our own personal "why," but to discover it, we need some cry It's. First, be altruistic—focus on helping others rather than just yourself. Second, it's about finding your purpose through experiences. It's about having a predefined purpose from birth and planting a seed within us that needs nurturing through various experiences. Even if that seed exists, we must undergo many existences to help it grow. Lastly, we need to find our present along this journey. I want to take action, but honestly, it "'s about living each day" to the fullest and gradually finding what's right for you. How about you? bet you've wondered at least once, "Why am I doing this job?" It can be a tricky question, and it often feels like we're stuck in a rut. But I can guarantee that no one striving for growth and wanting more out of life can escape this question. So, I hope this video encourages you to reflect on your passion and the reasons behind your work. I genuinely wish for you to find happiness and grow through this process.
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