2025. 6. 10. 03:58ㆍSelf Heal
When observing a person, pay attention to five key aspects. The world is full of people, but not everyone deserves a place in your life. Through numerous encounters, we learn to be warm while sometimes concealing our wounds. Therefore, deciding who to keep close and who to walk with is one of life's most important questions. Ancient wisdom suggests that when evaluating a person, consider what makes them laugh, what angers them, what they hide, what they reveal, and what they endure.
First, notice what they laugh at. People cannot conceal their true selves through laughter. Some laugh at others' misfortunes, while others find joy in others' happiness. Laughter serves as a window to the heart; those who mock others' failures can never genuinely share in their tears. A person's character is revealed through their sense of humour. Those who respect others, even in light-hearted jest, maintain their dignity in serious matters.
Second, observe their moments of anger. Everyone gets angry, but what angers them and how they express it reveals their depth. Those who rage for justice strive to uphold values that transcend their interests. In contrast, those who turn the world into an enemy over their pride ultimately poison others. A person's true nature is revealed in their anger; how they wield or control it defines their character.
Third, consider what they hide. Outward appearances can be similar, but what people conceal often indicates their true intentions. Those who cover others' pain with compassion are empathetic individuals. In contrast, those who expose others to hide their flaws are likely to be betrayals. A person who can keep secrets is someone who can protect others. By understanding what they hide, you gain insight into what they value.
Fourth, observe what they reveal. Some people flaunt knowledge; others boast about wealth. However, the truly noble do not engage in boasting. Their humility shines through naturally. Wisdom is revealed not in words but in demeanour. Those who prioritize sharing over showing off leave a sense of peace rather than pretense. By their side, even the simplest moments become profound sources of comfort.
Fifth, take note of what they endure. Life is not always smooth. Some individuals maintain grace in hardship, while others blame everyone for minor trials. How a person withstands pain reflects the weight of their heart. Those who remain grateful even in suffering are truly blessed. By observing what someone endures, you can assess the depth of their life experience.
A person cannot be understood based on appearances alone. Looks can be deceiving, but laughter cannot be faked. Words can be crafted, but anger reveals itself. Possessions may be displayed, but true character is exposed during difficult times. So, when you meet, love, or walk alongside someone, examine these five aspects: laughter, anger, what they hide, what they reveal, and their endurance. An entire life is expressed through these elements. The most extraordinary wisdom lies in the ability to see people as they truly are. Those with such insight navigate relationships without losing themselves and ultimately maintain the most precious connections by their side.
If you listen, be open and receptive. Because they do not flaunt their worth, their presence shines brightly. Because they do not insist on being right, their righteousness is evident. Because they do not boast, their achievements endure. Because they do not brag, their name is long remembered. The wise person does not compete; thus, the world cannot contend with them. Trust the ancient saying: what bends remains whole. Only then can a person remain complete until the end.
Hatred etches wrinkles on the face, while resentment tarnishes beauty. Emotions always manifest physically. The feeling of love harmonizes within the body, creating a warm appearance. The pulse steadies and movements become more vibrant than usual. Love aids digestion, making food easier to process. Thus, love is the healthiest emotion of all.
Insects leap into flames, oblivious to the danger, while fish bite the bait without realizing the risk. Yet we, aware of life's misfortunes, often succumb to sensual pleasures. Such is the endless folly of humanity. Bound by desires, we learn life's tragedies; living true to our nature, we discover life's joys. Understanding life's sorrows can dissolve worldly desires in that moment. Recognizing life's joys leads to the path of wisdom. Material desires may offer temporary satisfaction but ultimately lead to deeper inner pain and discontent. Living authentically brings genuine happiness and peace. When we awaken to the sorrows of material desires, worldly emotions fade. When we embrace the joys of living authentically, we reach a state of profound spiritual connection.
What connects people is, above all, words. A single word can build a bridge that fosters a bond or erect a wall that creates distance. Gentle words warm the heart, while harsh words chill relationships. Thus, we must speak with intention, carefully considering the impact of each word before it is spoken. Words are like fragrant flowers, capable of delighting hearts or like swords that wound others.
In life, we engage in countless conversations, but not every word carries sincerity. Some are mere exchanges; others hold the potential to create meaningful connections. We must speak with care, deeply considering the impact of each word before it is spoken. Words can be like fragrant flowers, bringing joy to people's hearts, or like swords, inflicting wounds. In life, we engage in countless conversations, but not all words carry sincerity. Some are mere facades, some hurt others, and some touch the heart. So, how should we communicate to win hearts and form meaningful bonds?
First, fewer words spoken can carry greater weight. Using too many words can lead to misunderstandings, and unnecessary comments can harm relationships. Like a deep river flowing quietly, the wise build trust through actions rather than words. By keeping your mouth closed and your heart open, people will naturally be drawn to you. Speaking excessively often results in heartache and loneliness. Those who act quietly earn more trust than those who talk endlessly. Listening to others' stories fosters deeper connections compared to those who continually express their thoughts.
Therefore, in conversation, it's important to reduce unnecessary words and speak only what is essential. Above all, focus on listening to the other person. Listening, rather than speaking, is the proper foundation of communication and the first step toward building trust. Second, gentle words resonate with people's hearts. Soft words open hearts more easily than harsh ones. A single warm word can comfort a weary soul, and gentle words can heal a wounded spirit. Just as strong winds can cause flowers to fall, harsh words can sever connections. Words spoken in the heat of emotion can deeply hurt others, and unintended remarks can lead to misunderstandings. Thus, we must always consider the inherent power of words. Considerate, gentle, and sincere words can have a profound effect in any situation.
In contrast, sharp and hasty words create unnecessary conflict that ultimately damages relationships. Speaking gently is not a sign of weakness; instead, gentle words carry a strong sense of trust. Warm words bring people closer together, while harsh words push them apart. Third, words reflect a person's character. They are not merely sounds; they are a mirror of one's integrity and dignity. A truthful person speaks words that inspire trust, a cautious person refrains from speaking recklessly, and a considerate person avoids hurting others. A single word can repay a thousand debts or ignite a century-long grudge. We speak countless words each day without considering their impact on others. Once spoken, words cannot be taken back, and a single remark can change someone's fate. Therefore, before saying, pause to reflect: Is this word necessary? Will it hurt someone? Will I regret it later? Thoughtful words can smooth the path of life, warm words can strengthen relationships, and the wisdom to remain silent can prevent unnecessary conflict.
Good words bring blessings, while harsh words drive connections away. Although speaking is one of the easiest things we do, it requires the utmost care and attention to detail. We navigate life with words, and they ultimately shape our existence. A single kind word can transform a life, while a single harsh word can sever a relationship. Thus, we must never forget the power of words. Thoughtful words, warm words, and sometimes the wisdom of silence will lead us to better connections. Let us reflect deeply today: Will my words comfort or wound someone? Kind words attract meaningful bonds, and gentle words invite blessings. The words we gather throughout our lives ultimately shape who we are.
In youth, subjectivity reigns; in old age, reflection prevails. In other words, youth is the time for writers, while old age is suited for philosophers. Similarly, in action, youth often make decisions based on impressions, whereas older adults typically arrive at decisions through reflection. The homeland is more precious, noble, and sacred than a mother, a father, or all ancestors combined.
We must speak with care, deeply considering the impact of each word before it is spoken. Words can be like fragrant flowers, bringing joy to people's hearts, or like swords, inflicting wounds. In life, we engage in countless conversations, but not all words carry sincerity. Some are mere facades, some hurt others, and some touch the heart. So, how should we communicate to win hearts and form meaningful bonds?
First, fewer words spoken can carry greater weight. Using too many words can lead to misunderstandings, and unnecessary comments can harm relationships. Like a deep river flowing quietly, the wise build trust through actions rather than words. By keeping your mouth closed and your heart open, people will naturally be drawn to you. Speaking excessively often results in heartache and loneliness. Those who act quietly earn more trust than those who talk endlessly. Listening to others' stories fosters deeper connections compared to those who continually express their thoughts.
Therefore, in conversation, it's important to reduce unnecessary words and speak only what is essential. Above all, focus on listening to the other person. Listening, rather than speaking, is the proper foundation of communication and the first step toward building trust. Second, gentle words resonate with people's hearts. Soft words open hearts more easily than harsh ones. A single warm word can comfort a weary soul, and gentle words can heal a wounded spirit. Just as strong winds can cause flowers to fall, harsh words can sever connections. Words spoken in the heat of emotion can deeply hurt others, and unintended remarks can lead to misunderstandings. Thus, we must always consider the inherent power of words. Considerate, gentle, and sincere words can have a profound effect in any situation.
In contrast, sharp and hasty words create unnecessary conflict that ultimately damages relationships. Speaking gently is not a sign of weakness; instead, gentle words carry a strong sense of trust. Warm words bring people closer together, while harsh words push them apart. Third, words reflect a person's character. They are not merely sounds; they are a mirror of one's integrity and dignity. A truthful person speaks words that inspire trust, a cautious person refrains from speaking recklessly, and a considerate person avoids hurting others. A single word can repay a thousand debts or ignite a century-long grudge. We speak countless words each day without considering their impact on others. Once spoken, words cannot be taken back, and a single remark can change someone's fate. Therefore, before saying, pause to reflect: Is this word necessary? Will it hurt someone? Will I regret it later? Thoughtful words can smooth the path of life, warm words can strengthen relationships, and the wisdom to remain silent can prevent unnecessary conflict.
Good words bring blessings, while harsh words drive connections away. Although speaking is one of the easiest things we do, it requires the utmost care and attention to detail. We navigate life with words, and they ultimately shape our existence. A single kind word can transform a life, while a single harsh word can sever a relationship. Thus, we must never forget the power of words. Thoughtful words, warm words, and sometimes the wisdom of silence will lead us to better connections. Let us reflect deeply today: Will my words comfort or wound someone? Kind words attract meaningful bonds, and gentle words invite blessings. The words we gather throughout our lives ultimately shape who we are.
In youth, subjectivity reigns; in old age, reflection prevails. In other words, youth is the time for writers, while old age is suited for philosophers. Similarly, in action, youth often make decisions based on impressions, whereas older adults typically arrive at decisions through reflection. The homeland is more precious, noble, and sacred than a mother, a father, or all ancestors combined. Substance is more important than form. Anyone can become angry, and it is easy to do so. However, directing anger at the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right Way is no simple task. The rhythm of nature is continuous; it never stops or ends. Nature exists most harmoniously when it regulates itself. Similarly, humans should live naturally in their eating, dressing, thinking, acting, and relationships, free from force, pretense, or bravado. Naturalness leads to a fulfilling life. All truths that are silenced become poison. To achieve success, one must be willing to accept failure. Failure is the greatest gift toward success. It is easy to silence someone's words, but difficult to conquer their heart. If you respect yourself, others will respect you.
A beginner should set their resolve firmly, vowing to become a sage, and should never entertain even the slightest thought of belittling themselves or making excuses. The nature of an ordinary person and that of a sage are fundamentally the same. While differences in temperament—clarity, shadow, purity, or impurity are inevitable, if one truly understands and practices, casting off old, tainted habits and restoring their original nature, all virtues will be fully realized without adding even a hair's breadth. Therefore, how can ordinary people not aspire to become sages? Mencius declared that human nature is inherently good, citing Emperors Yao and Shun as proof, asserting that anyone can become like Yao or Shun. How could he deceive us? One should constantly strive to recognize that human nature is inherently good, regardless of the distinction between ancient and modern, wise and foolish. Why, then, does the sage become a sage through effort, while I remain ordinary despite my efforts? This is solely because I have not firmly established my resolve, clarified my understanding, or practiced diligently.
Establishing resolve, gaining a clear understanding, and practicing diligently all depend on oneself, so why seek them elsewhere? Mencius said, "What kind of person was Shun, and what kind of person am I? One who acts nobly is no different from Shun." Thus, I should adopt Shun's mindset as my model and strive to emulate him. A person's appearance cannot be changed from ugly to beautiful, their strength cannot be transformed from weak to strong, nor their stature from short to tall—these are determined by birth and cannot be altered. However, the mind can transform ignorance into wisdom and unworthiness into virtue, as its innate capacity for discernment is not limited by the temperament given at birth. Nothing is more beautiful than wisdom, and nothing more precious than virtue—why then, out of fear, do we fail to practice wisdom and virtue, thus damaging the nature bestowed by heaven? If people preserve this resolve in their hearts, steadfastly uphold it, and do not waver, they will come close to the Way.
Though people claim to have set their resolve, they often procrastinate, waiting for another day to study. This happens because, while they speak of resolve, they lack genuine sincerity in their pursuit of learning. If one's resolve is truly set on learning, practicing virtue is within one's reach. Why seek it from others or wait for tomorrow? The reason for valuing resolve is that a firm resolve leads to immediate study, driven by the fear of falling short, always contemplating learning without retreating. If one's resolve is neither sincere nor diligent, and they merely follow old habits while passing time, how can they achieve anything by the end of their life? Knowing where courage ends and folly begins is the mark of a wise person. Listen to words that may grate on your ears. If your ears constantly hear harsh words and your heart is filled with discord, these are like whetstones that build character and refine conduct. However, if every word pleases your ears and every event delights your heart, it is as if you are burying your life in poison.
Substance is more important than form. Anyone can become angry, and it is easy to do so. However, directing anger at the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right Way is no simple task. The rhythm of nature is continuous; it never stops or ends. Nature exists most harmoniously when it regulates itself. Similarly, humans should live naturally in their eating, dressing, thinking, acting, and relationships, free from force, pretense, or bravado. Naturalness leads to a fulfilling life. All truths that are silenced become poison. To achieve success, one must be willing to accept failure. Failure is the greatest gift toward success. It is easy to silence someone's words, but difficult to conquer their heart. If you respect yourself, others will respect you.
A beginner should set their resolve firmly, vowing to become a sage, and should never entertain even the slightest thought of belittling themselves or making excuses. The nature of an ordinary person and that of a sage are fundamentally the same. While differences in temperament—clarity, shadow, purity, or impurity—are inevitable, if one truly understands and practices casting off old, tainted habits and restoring their original nature, all virtues will be fully realized without adding even a hair's breadth. Therefore, how can ordinary people not aspire to become sages? Mencius declared that human nature is inherently good, citing Emperors Yao and Shun as proof, asserting that anyone can become like Yao or Shun. How could he deceive us? One should constantly strive to recognize that human nature is inherently good, regardless of the distinction between ancient and modern, wise and foolish. Why, then, does the sage become a sage through effort while I remain ordinary despite my efforts? This is solely because I have not firmly established my resolve, clarified my understanding, or practiced diligently.
Establishing resolve, gaining a clear understanding, and practicing diligently all depend on oneself, so why seek them elsewhere? Mencius said, "What kind of person was Shun, and what kind of person am I? One who acts nobly is no different from Shun." Thus, I should adopt Shun's mindset as my model and strive to emulate him. A person's appearance cannot be changed from ugly to beautiful, their strength cannot be transformed from weak to strong, nor their stature from short to tall—these are determined by birth and cannot be altered. However, the mind can transform ignorance into wisdom and unworthiness into virtue, as its innate capacity for discernment is not limited by the temperament given at birth. Nothing is more beautiful than wisdom, and nothing more precious than virtue—why then, out of fear, do we fail to practice wisdom and virtue, thus damaging the nature bestowed by heaven? If people preserve this resolve in their hearts, steadfastly uphold it, and do not waver, they will come close to the Way.
Though people claim to have set their resolve, they often procrastinate, waiting for another day to study. This happens because, while they speak of resolve, they lack genuine sincerity in their pursuit of learning. Suppose one's resolve is truly set on learning. In that case, practicing virtue is within one's reach—why seek it from others or wait for tomorrow? The reason for valuing resolve is that a firm resolve leads to immediate study, driven by the fear of falling short, always contemplating learning without retreating. Suppose one's resolve is neither sincere nor diligent, and they merely follow old habits while passing the time. How can they achieve anything by the end of their life? Knowing where courage ends and folly begins is the mark of a wise person. Listen to words that may grate on your ears. If your ears constantly hear harsh words and your heart is filled with discord, these are like whetstones that build character and refine conduct. However, if every word pleases your ears and every event delights your heart, it is as if you are burying your life in poison.
Amid noise and chaos, even the things we usually remember can be forgotten. However, in a clear and tranquil state, those forgotten things can become vivid once again. A slight shift between calm and chaos reveals a stark contrast between light and darkness. Human inner peace is easily disrupted by external turmoil. Yet, a state of calm has the power to reconnect us with our inner truth. In the fluctuation between tranquillity and chaos, we gain the opportunity to reflect on ourselves and understand the essence of life. Ultimately, true enlightenment is achieved through stillness, a state attainable only by balancing will and intellect.
When addressing the faults of others, it's essential to avoid being overly harsh, considering their capacity to bear criticism. When guiding others toward goodness, avoid setting standards that are too high; instead, consider what they can realistically achieve. Excessive criticism can undermine others' pride and foster resentment, while unrealistic expectations can lead to despair and weaken their resolve.
It's essential to acknowledge the limits of will and consider realistic possibilities. Humans live amid flaws and imperfections; therefore, demanding perfection only creates a wider gap between ideals and reality. True wisdom lies in understanding others' shortcomings, allowing room for growth, and presenting a practical moral path. This respect for others' will and capacity is fundamental to fostering their development.
The cicada's nymph, though dirty, transforms into a cicada that drinks clear dew in the autumn breeze. Decayed grass, though dull, becomes a firefly, illuminating summer nights. Thus, purity can arise from filth, and light can emerge from darkness. Human existence often begins in pain and lack, but this very pain can drive will and transformation. Just as the nymph becomes a cicada and decayed grass turns into a firefly, even the lowest existence has the potential to ascend to a higher state. This teaches us that life's adverse conditions can be the fertile soil for positive growth.
Ultimately, enlightenment is possible only through life's imperfections and deficiencies. Just as light cannot exist without darkness, life's pain lays the groundwork for ethical maturity. This process gains meaning through the continual clash between the external world and our will. Human happiness ultimately depends on how well one can endure solitude. It's essential to appreciate the value of time alone and to make it your ally. In solitude, strive for development and growth. Do not seek to fill loneliness with the company of others; first, become your companion. Explore what you truly desire and seek happiness in the small changes that your actions can bring. When you embody the self you aspire to be, your beauty will shine effortlessly, and people will naturally gravitate toward you. When you become like a flower, butterflies will come of their own accord.
Raising your voice to speak out yields more than merely cultivating your mind in silence. Even if wealth and treasures abound, they cannot be guarded forever. Pride in high status can invite disaster. After achieving success and fame, the path to true fulfillment lies in knowing when to withdraw.
Knowing principles is not the same as genuinely loving them. A person who only speaks without acting is like a garden overrun with weeds. The greatest glory lies not in never failing but in rising each time we fall. A person who rages like a blazing fire is less fearsome than one who grows pale with anger. Love and desire are the two wings of the spirit that inspire great deeds—those who abandon old friends for a slight advantage act despicably. The distance from ear to mouth is only a few inches; hearing something and immediately repeating it is a form of shallow learning. Such behaviour cannot nourish one's entire being.
Virtue must guide talent; talent should serve virtue. Talent without virtue is like a house without a master, where the servant controls all affairs, which inevitably leads to chaos. Only when guided by virtue can talent achieve true success and harmony. No matter how exceptional one's talent may be, its improper use can ultimately lead to chaos. To ward off malicious individuals or control reckless crowds, one must provide them with a path of escape. If you leave them with no way to retreat, it is akin to sealing a rat's hole. These individuals will end up biting and destroying valuable things. A reasonable person never forgets their faults, but quickly forgets their good deeds. Conversely, a flawed person tends to remember their good deeds while quickly forgetting their wrongs.
Some individuals use their intellect, while others rely on their strength. Those who use their minds tend to govern others, whereas others often govern those who use their strength. Those who are governed sustain others, while others sustain those who govern. This is a universal principle. Everything begins in the mind. Humans possess free will and the freedom to choose good thoughts and actions. Good thoughts lead to good actions, which accumulate to make the world a better place. Like a blooming flower, the greatest joy in life lies in the practice of good deeds.
However, we often bring unhappiness upon ourselves by living insatiably. Those who are not content with what they have always felt a sense of lack, and are consumed by dissatisfaction. Contentment is not dictated by wealth; it arises from the heart. For those who are grateful, everything in the world is enough. Gratitude fosters happiness, so we must be wholeheartedly thankful. Life is a continuous series of challenges and choices, and humans must not fear failure. Failure is not the end; rather, it is a new beginning—a key to breaking through limitations and unlocking new possibilities. Success is never accidental; it is built on effort, dedication, patience, and perseverance. Achievements require patience; without it, nothing can be accomplished. True happiness is granted to those who can conquer themselves.
Success ultimately belongs to oneself. Do not celebrate as if you've conquered the world when good things happen, nor despair as if the world is ending when bad things occur. The wind may stir the surface of the water, but the depths remain untouched. It is often in moments of confusion that we can discover a new path behind us. Without a far-reaching vision and a broad, profound understanding, you will inevitably encounter worries regarding immediate matters. Dedicating love and effort to small, everyday tasks lays the groundwork for achieving great things. There is no need to use a butcher's cleaver to catch a bird—the scale of a task or nation dictates whether a person is suited to handle it.
When assessing a person, consider five aspects. The world is filled with people, but not everyone deserves to be by your side. Through countless encounters, we learn warmth and may even bear quiet wounds. Therefore, deciding who to keep close to and who to walk alongside is one of life's most important questions. Ancient wisdom advises us to observe what makes a person laugh, what angers them, what they conceal, what they reveal, and what they endure.
First, observe what makes them laugh. People cannot conceal their true selves in moments of laughter. Some individuals find joy in others' misfortunes, while others genuinely celebrate others' happiness. Laughter serves as a window to the heart. Those who mock others' failures can never honestly share in their sorrows. A person's character is often revealed through their approach to humour; those who respect others, even in light-hearted moments, maintain dignity in serious matters.
Second, pay attention to their moments of anger. Everyone experiences anger, but what triggers it and how one expresses it reveals the depth of character. Those who rage for justice strive to uphold values that transcend their interests. In contrast, individuals who view the world as an enemy due to their pride ultimately harm others. A person's true stature is demonstrated through their anger; how they wield or control this emotion defines their character.
In conversations, it's essential to eliminate unnecessary words and focus on what is truly important. Above all, prioritize listening to the other person. Listening, rather than speaking, is the proper foundation of communication and the first step in building trust.
Gentle words have the power to move people's hearts. Hearts open more easily to soft words than to harsh ones. A single warm word can comfort a weary soul, and kind words can heal a wounded heart. Just as strong winds can make flowers fall, harsh words can sever connections. Words are like swords: when used wisely, they can help others, but when wielded carelessly, they can leave deep scars. Words spoken in the heat of emotion can deeply hurt others, and unintentional words can lead to misunderstandings. Therefore, we must always consider the power of our words. Considerate, gentle, and sincere words can touch hearts in any situation. In contrast, sharp and hasty words can create unnecessary conflict and ultimately damage relationships.
Speaking gently is not a sign of weakness; instead, gentle words carry strong trust. Warm words draw people together, while harsh words push them apart.
Furthermore, words reflect a person's character. They are not just sounds; they mirror one's integrity and dignity. A truthful person uses words that inspire trust, a cautious person does not speak recklessly, and a considerate person avoids hurting others. A single word can repay a thousand debts or spark a grudge that lasts a century. We speak countless words each day, but rarely think about their impact on others. Once spoken, words cannot be taken back, and a single word can change someone's fate. Therefore, before speaking, pause to reflect: Is this word essential? Will it hurt someone? Will I regret saying it later? Thoughtful words can smooth the path of life, warm words strengthen relationships, and the wisdom to remain silent can prevent unnecessary conflict. Good words bring blessings, while harsh words drive connections away.
Although words are one of the simplest things we do, they require the most excellent care. We live with words throughout our lives, and they shape our existence. A single good word can transform a life, while a single harsh word can sever a relationship. Thus, we must never forget the power of our words—thoughtful words and warm words.
Therefore, in conversation, reduce unnecessary words and speak only what is essential. Above all, focus on listening to the other person. Listening, not speaking, is the true beginning of communication and the first step toward building trust. Second, gentle words move people's hearts. Hearts open more easily to soft words than to harsh ones. A single warm word can comfort a weary soul, and gentle words can heal a wounded heart. Strong winds make flowers fall, and harsh words sever connections. Words are like swords—used well, they help others but wielded carelessly, they leave deep scars. Words spoken in the heat of emotion can deeply hurt others, and unintended words can cause misunderstandings. Thus, we must always consider the power of words. Considerate, gentle, and sincere words can move hearts in any situation.
In contrast, sharp and hasty words create unnecessary conflict and ultimately damage relationships. Speaking gently is not a sign of weakness. On the contrary, gentle words carry strong trust. Warm words draw people together, while harsh words push them apart. Third, words reflect a person's character. Words are not mere sounds; they are a mirror of one's integrity and dignity. A truthful person speaks words that inspire trust, a cautious person does not speak recklessly, and a considerate person does not hurt others. A single word can repay a thousand debts or spark a century-long grudge. We speak countless words each day, but rarely consider their impact on others. Yet, once spoken, words cannot be taken back, and a single word can change someone's fate. Therefore, before saying, pause to reflect: Is this word essential? Will it hurt someone? Will I regret it later? Thoughtful words smooth the path of life, warm words strengthen relationships, and the wisdom to remain silent prevents unnecessary conflict. Good words bring blessings, while harsh words drive connections away. Words are the easiest thing we do, yet they require the most excellent care. We live with words throughout our lives, and words become our life. A single good word can transform a life, and a single harsh word can sever a relationship. Thus, we must never forget the power of words. Thoughtful words, warm words.
At times, the wisdom of remaining silent can pave the way for better connections. Today, let us reflect deeply: Will my words bring comfort or cause harm to someone? Kind words foster meaningful relationships, while gentle words invite blessings. The words we gather ultimately shape our lives. In youth, we tend to be subjective; in old age, we focus on reflection. In essence, youth is the time for writers, while old age is suited for philosophers. Similarly, youth often make decisions based on feelings and impressions, whereas older adults typically make decisions after careful consideration and deliberation.
Our homeland is more precious, noble, and sacred than our mother, father, or all our ancestors combined. We must cherish and dedicate ourselves to our homeland. Start by improving the simplest things. Those who seek to open another's heart should begin with clarity and gently guide them rather than forcefully trying to breach what is closed. Likewise, those aiming to reform customs should start with straightforward matters before gradually addressing the deeper issues rather than recklessly diving into complex topics.
A person without kindness cannot endure hardship for long, nor can they sustain comfort for an extended period. One who has mastered the Way of the sage finds joy in both poverty and prosperity. A vessel must be empty to hold something new. All hardships serve as catalysts that uplift the heart and provide valuable insights. Kindred spirits recognize each other from a distance and exchange greetings. Knowledge that is not tied to justice is not wisdom; it is merely useful information. When you strike something, a sound resonates; if you do not strike, it remains silent. A noble person responds only when asked and refrains from speaking unprompted.
If a teacup wishes to receive water from a teapot, it must be positioned lower than the teapot. Just like a cowherd drives cattle back to pasture with a whip, so too do old age and death relentlessly urge human life forward. What is there to laugh at or take joy in? The world is continuously in turmoil, yet you remain enveloped in darkness.
Why not seek the light? How can you rely on this fragile, disease-ridden body for comfort? It is full of desires, prone to illness, and lacks any unchanging essence. When life ends, and the spirit departs, the body will decay like a discarded gourd in autumn, leaving only bare bones behind. What, then, is there to love or enjoy? Imagination is more important than knowledge. While calamities sent by fate can often be avoided, those we create ourselves offer no escape. Even a weak arrow can travel far when carried by the wind.
Under challenging circumstances, recalling past joys can be incredibly helpful. Yet, it is peculiar that during good times, memories of hardship seem cruel and incomplete. No matter how short the path may be, you won't reach it without walking; no matter how easy the task is, you cannot accomplish it without effort. Nothing can replace hard work. Humanity's greatest strength lies in the ability to question. We are products of our dreams, and our brief lives are enveloped in sleep.
Humans must recognize their limits but also learn how to overcome them. When encountering a virtuous person, set aside selfish thoughts and strive to emulate their virtues. Without stepping outside, one can still know the world; without looking through a window, one can understand the heavens. The more we seek knowledge, the more elusive true wisdom becomes and the less we truly know. Thus, the sage knows the truth without wandering, names things without seeing them, and achieves without unnecessary striving. Feeding without love is akin to raising livestock; loving without respect is like tending to a beast. Respect originates in the heart before any offerings are made. If offerings are made out of respect but lack proper reverence, a noble person does not cling to superficial gestures. Avoid doing what should not be done, and do not desire what should not be chosen. This is the way. Keep in mind that those with great virtue or skill often face hardships.
Those who possess great virtue or skill often face hardships. Solitary individuals and outcasts, with their uneasy and precarious hearts, deeply reflect on their actions, enabling them to attain a more accurate understanding. It is essential to possess material things without being bound by them, for only then can they be instrumental. Avoid speaking lightly and blurting out your knowledge; instead, keep it to yourself and deepen your understanding. When you encounter a virtuous person, aspire to be like them; when you meet an unkind person, reflect on your behaviour. Do not rush to resolve uncertain matters by making decisions alone. Honest improvement of your opinions is necessary, but do not cling stubbornly to them. A kind heart is more valuable than a beautiful appearance; substance matters more than form.
Anyone can get angry, and it is easy to do so. However, expressing anger appropriately at the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the proper manner, is a much more challenging task.
The rhythm of nature is endless and ever-present. Nature exists in its most authentic form by purifying itself. Similarly, humans should live with utmost naturalness in eating, dressing, thinking, acting, and relating to others, free from force, pretense, or bravado. Embracing naturalness leads to a wholesome life. Silencing truths can lead to toxic consequences. To achieve success, one must be willing to accept the possibility of failure, as it is often the most excellent stepping stone to success. While it is easy to suppress someone's words, conquering their heart is far more difficult.
If you have self-respect, others will respect you in return. A beginner should firmly establish their resolve, vowing to become a sage, and should never entertain thoughts of belittling themselves or making excuses.
The nature of an ordinary person and that of a sage are fundamentally the same. Although differences in temperament—clarity, shadow, purity, or impurity are inevitable, proper understanding and practice can help someone cast off old habits and restore their original nature. All virtues will be fully realized without the need for any additional effort. How, then, can ordinary people not aspire to become sages?
Mencius declared that human nature is inherently good, citing Emperors Yao and Shun as evidence that anyone can attain the same virtue as them. How could he have led us astray? We should constantly strive to recognize that human nature is good, with no distinction between ancient and modern or wise and foolish. So, why does the sage become a sage through effort, while I remain ordinary despite my efforts? The answer lies in my failure to firmly establish my resolve, clarify my understanding, or practice diligently. Establishing resolve, gaining a clear understanding, and practicing diligently all depend on oneself. There is no need to seek them from others. Mencius said, "What kind of person was Shun, and what kind of person am I? One who acts nobly is no different from Shun." Therefore, I should adopt Shun's mindset as my model and strive to emulate him.
One's appearance cannot be altered from ugly to beautiful, one's strength cannot be transformed from weak to strong, and one's height cannot change from short to tall; these traits are predetermined by birth. However, the mind can transform ignorance into wisdom and unworthiness into virtue. This is because the mind's innate ability to discern is not constrained by the temperament that we are born with. Nothing is more beautiful than wisdom, and nothing is more precious than virtue. Why, then, do we fear practicing wisdom and virtue damaging the nature bestowed upon us? If people preserve this resolve in their hearts, steadfastly uphold it, and do not waver, they will come closer to the Wayyy.
Although individuals may claim to have set their resolve, they often procrastinate, waiting for a more opportune time to study. This happens because, while they speak of resolve, they lack genuine sincerity in their pursuit of learning. If one's resolve is truly set on learning, the practice of virtue depends solely on oneself. If you want to practice virtue, it is readily available. There is no need to seek it from others or wait until tomorrow.
The reason for valuing resolve is that a firm commitment leads to immediate study, driven by the fear of falling short and a constant contemplation of learning without retreating. If one's resolve is neither sincere nor diligent, and they merely follow old habits while passing the time, how can they achieve anything by the end of their life? Knowing where courage ends and folly begins is the mark of a wise person. We should listen to words that may grate on our ears. Suppose we constantly hear harsh words, and our hearts are filled with discord. In that case, these experiences are like whetstones that build character and refine our conduct. If every word pleases our ears and every event delights our hearts, it is akin to burying our lives in poison.
Amid noise and chaos, even things we usually remember are forgotten. However, in a clear and tranquil state, even forgotten things can become vivid. A slight shift between calm and clamour reveals a stark difference between light and darkness. Human inner peace is easily disrupted by external turmoil. Yet, a state of calm holds the power to reconnect us with our inner truth. Amid the flow of tranquillity and chaos, humans gain the opportunity to reflect on themselves and grasp the essence of life. Ultimately, true enlightenment is achieved through stillness, attainable only through a balance of will and intellect.
When reproaching others for their faults, avoid being overly harsh, considering whether they can bear it. When guiding others toward goodness, do not set standards that are too high, but instead think about what they can realistically follow. Excessive criticism can erode others' pride and foster resentment. At the same time, overly idealistic expectations can lead to despair and weaken human resolve. It is essential to recognize the limitations of will and consider realistic possibilities. Humans live amidst flaws and imperfections, so demanding perfection only widens the gap between ideals and reality. True wisdom lies in understanding others' shortcomings, offering them room to grow, and presenting a practical moral path that guides them on their journey. This is the only way to respect others' will and capacity while aiding their growth.
The cicada's nymph, though dirty, transforms into a beautiful cicada, sipping clear dew in the autumn breeze; decayed grass, although dull, becomes a firefly, illuminating summer nights. Indeed, purity arises from filth, and light emerges from darkness. Human existence begins in pain and lack, but this pain drives our will and transformation. Just as the nymph becomes a cicada and decayed grass transforms into a firefly, even the lowest existence holds the potential for ascension to a higher state. This teaches us that life's adverse conditions are the soil for positive growth. Ultimately, enlightenment becomes possible only through life's imperfections and deficiencies. Just as light cannot exist without darkness, life's pain forms the foundation for ethical maturity, and this process gains meaning through the endless clash between the world and personal will.
Ultimately, human happiness depends on how well one can endure solitude. Be grateful for the time alone and make time your ally. In solitude, strive to develop and grow. Do not seek to fill loneliness with others; first, become your companion. Explore what you truly desire, and when you feel happy, become someone who finds joy in small changes in action. When you embody the self you aspire to be, your beauty shines effortlessly, and people will naturally gather around you. When you become a flower, butterflies will come on their own—raising your voice to speak yields more than silently cultivating your mind alone. Even if wealth and treasures abound, they cannot be guarded forever. Pride in high status invites disaster. Having achieved success and fame, withdrawing is the way of heaven. Knowing principles is not the same as loving them. A person who only speaks without acting is like a garden overgrown with weeds.
The greatest glory lies not in never failing but in rising each time we fall. A person who rages like a blazing fire is less fearsome than one who grows pale with anger. Love and desire are the two wings of the spirit that inspire great deeds. Abandoning old friends for a slight advantage is despicable. The distance from ear to mouth is only a few inches, yet hearing something and immediately repeating it demonstrates shallow learning. Such behaviour cannot nourish a person entirely. Virtue is the master of talent, and talent is the servant of virtue. Talent without virtue is like a house without a master, where the servant is in charge; this inevitably leads to chaos. True success or harmony cannot be achieved through talent alone; it must be guided by virtue. No matter how exceptional one's talent may be, without the virtue to apply it wisely, it will ultimately result in disorder.
To deal with malicious individuals or manage reckless crowds, you must allow them an escape route. If you restrict their retreat, it's like sealing a rat's hole; they will lash out and destroy valuable things. A reasonable person remembers their faults but easily forgets their good deeds. In contrast, a flawed person never forgets their good deeds while quickly forgetting their wrongs. Some people use their minds, while others rely on strength. Those who use their minds govern others; others govern those who use their strength. Ultimately, those who are governed provide for others. In contrast, those who govern are cared for by others—this is a universal principle.
Everything begins in the mind. Humans have free will and the freedom to choose good thoughts and actions. Good thoughts lead to good actions, which collectively make the world a better place. Like flowers blooming, the greatest joy in life comes from performing good deeds. Yet, we often bring unhappiness upon ourselves by living insatiable lives, those who are discontent with what they have always felt lacking and are plagued by dissatisfaction.
Contentment is unrelated to wealth; it arises from the heart. For those who are grateful, everything in the world feels sufficient. Gratitude cultivates happiness, so we should practice thankfulness generously. Life is a continuous series of challenges and choices, and humans should not fear failure. Failure is not the end; it is a new beginning, a key to breaking through limitations and opening new possibilities. Success is never accidental; it is built on effort, dedication, patience, and perseverance. Achievement requires patience; without it, nothing can be accomplished. True happiness comes to those who can overcome themselves. Success is not just conquering external challenges but mastering one's own heart, while failure is being defeated by it. If a person can govern their own heart, they can overcome anything in the world. Therefore, we must diligently discipline ourselves and refine our inner selves.
Enlightenment is not something extraordinary; it is the realization of things as they are. The path to enlightenment must be discovered by oneself; it cannot be obtained through others' words or books. All beings have the potential for enlightenment, but failing to recognize this is folly. Purifying the mind, focusing, and achieving a moment of clarity should be the ultimate goal of all learning. Let us live with gratitude and patience, even in hardship and adversity. Just as we strive for happiness, seeking to avoid unhappiness is also part of life. Ultimately, what sets us free is the courage and enlightenment to overcome ourselves.
If a ruler indulges in pleasures like hunting or drinking and squanders the treasury on lavish projects, the nation will inevitably fall. Do not boast as if you have conquered the world when good things happen, nor sigh as if everything is lost when bad things occur. The wind may stir the surface of the water, but the depths remain undisturbed. Only when you feel lost can you discover a new path behind you.
Without a far-reaching vision and deep understanding, you will inevitably face worries in the immediate moment. Pouring love and effort into small, everyday tasks forms the foundation for achieving great things. It is wise not to use a butcher's cleaver to catch a bird; the scale of a task or a nation determines whether a person is suited or unsuited to handle it.
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